Monthly Archives: February 2013

Location Location Location

Meet, date, and club. Those are the three most important factors when picking the location where you want to live. You want to be able to MEET new girls around that location. You want a close DATE spot. And you want CLUBS or bars close by.

Meet
You want to live in a place that has single women around at all times. You may want to get an apartment in a college area, so you can just go to the hot tub and have many opportunities to meet new girls.

Date
It’s important to have a good date spot set up close to your place because it makes it much easier to get a girl to agree to come back. For me, I don’t know if I really care about a girl until after sex is out of the way. If I don’t get sex out of the way, I have no idea what I want, and sometimes I will lose the girl. Having your apartment very close to your date spot makes sex much more likely.

Club
Partying or night game is always a good choice for finding girls, but if you find a girl you really like, and she wants to go home with you… then you don’t want to have to tell her it will be a 30 minute ride in the opposite direction of her house. You want to tell her that you are just around the corner.

Convenience is the psychological reason that these three things are so important. If you can conveniently meet girls around your apartment, you will be more likely to do so. If she can conveniently walk 5 minutes to your place to see an awesome video you have told her about, then it most likely won’t be a problem. If the girl from the club isn’t sure how much she likes you, but she is horny and you are so close, she’ll be back at your place later that night. Convenience is a power psychological effect, so make sure it is on your side.

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See the interaction through her eyes

Every time you talk to a girl you need to be able to see everything through her eyes. To be able to see through her eyes you have to understand what she wants, how much attraction she feels for you, and what kind of mood she is in.
As strange as it is to hear, the best way to understand what women really want is to read romance novels. They are filled with what women are really attracted to. Also make sure to read my book Understanding Sexual Attraction: What makes a woman want you.

One very important thing you want to see through her eyes is how attracted to you she is. Here is an example to show why this is important: Guy 1 approaches a girl with the line “Do you know where X is?” and everything is going fine, then he just comes out and says “I like you, can I have your number?” He didn’t read how she felt and so he didn’t see that she didn’t feel any attraction for him yet. If you look at it through her eyes here’s what she is thinking:

-OK this guy is approaching me… he wants me, he’s just using this as an excuse to talk to me. He’s OK looking but nothing special, and so far nothing interesting has come out of his mouth. My first impression of him is not good because subconsciously I have read that his body language is not very good. He could make a good friend. Oh he just said he likes me… what makes him think he has a chance with me? He’s asking for my number, it would be awkward if I said no. Here I will give it to him but only respond when I am bored.

So she doesn’t ever really feel attraction for this guy, but he showed all his cards anyway. Not the best choice. Now let’s look at the exact same interaction but the girl this time will be attracted to the guy.

-OK this guy is approaching me… he wants me, he’s just using this as an excuse to talk to me. He’s OK looking but nothing special, but he is clearly very confident. I wonder what has made him this confident. I can subconsciously see that he has very good body language, I know he’s only OK looking but why do I feel attracted to this guy? Oh he just said he likes me… we just met and he is already putting himself out there. He is extremely brave. I’ll give him my number, I hope he texts me so I can figure this guy out.

So this is the exact same interaction with a guy who is just as good looking, but excellent body language triggers attraction and curiosity from the girl. The guy says the exact same lines, but gets a completely different response. Some people say coming out and saying something like “I like you” is beta. It is only beta if she sees herself as higher value than yourself. You have to be able to read where you stand, and to do that you have to be able to look through her eyes.

We will use this exact same interaction, except now the guy will read that the girl is not into him, and act accordingly. He opens with “Hey do you know where the X bank is?”

-OK this guy is approaching me… he wants me, he’s just using this as an excuse to talk to me. He’s OK looking but nothing special. His body language is not bad, but not good either. I don’t feel any attraction for this guy, but it’s somebody to talk to. Oh he’s teasing me, maybe he’s just a fun guy who likes talking to new people. Maybe he doesn’t like me… why doesn’t he like me? Oh he has traveled the world, he’s adventurous. I would love to travel the world. I wonder how he did it and what it was like? Maybe I like this guy. Oh he’s asking for my number, I don’t want to stop talking with him, but at least this way we can talk more.

In this interaction the guy waited until the girl was actually attracted to him before he asked for the number. If he would have said “I like you.” at the beginning of the interaction like the others, then she may have given out her number, but she would not have actually met him. He read the body language signs she gave off and was able to see when she started feeling attraction for him.

To sum up what you can learn from this is that if you have solid looks and body language then you will make a good first impression and you should keep first interactions short (this doesn’t mean keep an actual date short, just remember that the goal is to get the date). A short interaction will be less work and it will be harder to mess up. On the other hand if your looks and body language aren’t as good, then you will have to use personality attributes and status to create attraction. If this is the case then you will want to talk with her longer so you can show you have these things.

In these examples the guys asked for the girls numbers, I still believe doing that is the best way to waste your time, as you can’t be sure if the girl is into you. If you don’t know how to read the signs to see if a girl feels attraction for you read my book 120 Body Language signals that She Likes You.

Getting Numbers Vs. Giving Numbers

It has always been a sign of skill to go up to a girl and “get her number”. Among friends it’s an ultimate bragging right to get the number of a girl in front of them, but does it really mean anything? How often do those girls end up their girlfriend or lover? Usually not very often. These guys wonder why they get flaked on so often; they are barely able to convince a girl to give her number to them, and they wonder why she doesn’t show up to the date.

The problem is that she never felt enough attraction in the first place, so these guys have spent this time trying to meet a girl who never intended to meet them in the first place. They may try to increase attraction through texts and over the phone, but it is VERY difficult to do through texts, and almost as hard through talking on the phone.

The solution to this is simply to give the girls your number, preferably on a piece of paper. What this does is it forces you to try your best to create attraction and make a good impression. After you do this all you have to do is hand them your number. If you did well and they are interested, you will get a text. If not, you will forget about them and not have to waste your time texting and trying to set up a date.

Another benefit to giving them your number on a piece of paper, is that it’s hard for them to reject you in that moment, because you just want to leave it with them. They may have been really intimidated or had a bad day, so they acted cold. After thinking about it they realized they wanted a date, and now they have the option to call you. Slipping a piece of paper can also save them some embarrassment from people watching. Overall giving your number to a girl is much smarter and won’t lead to you trying to “make a girl like you” through text messages. Before going anywhere you should make sure that in your wallet or pocket you have slips of paper with your number on them, so that no opportunity is missed.